My relationship with the 5Ws

I spend 99% of my time in my living on the 5Ws (where, when, what, who and why) in the hope that if I can figure out the right combination of the 5Ws, I will be happy.

I have some backgrounds in math so this usually translates into an equation in which I can optimize mathematically (please bear with me) that is P(Happiness|5Ws). This is the same as saying: the probability of happiness is governed by the 5Ws that I want. A large part of my life is to test each W or a combination of them and to see if I'm happy about the outcome of it. So far, my luck on this search is quite low. This is not surprising after I compute that if there are 10 places to choose (where), the time it occurs during the day (12 hours), the things I want to get (what), with whom I want to do it (who) and the purpose of it (why),  this is a huge number even I constraint the number of people I want to be with (10) and the number of things I want to get (10). This adds up to 12000 possibilities. Let assume that I try out 1 combination a day, it still takes me 33 years to complete the search. Everyone should be frustrated by then because this is insane. However, it is easy to prove that the above line of thought is incorrect because I did experience some moments of happiness in my past 30 years. Does it mean that lucks are all you need to experience happiness? This doesn't make sense to me.

A Hidden Variable: The How

After I did some studies/readings on how other people find their happiness, I'm convinced that the how is more important than the 5Ws. That is how I do X is more important than where, when, what, who and why. How is 1 variable, so mathematically it is simple. Buddha summarizes the How nicely in 2 words: No Suffering. By carrying this state of "No Suffering" to the 5Ws I do during the day, I cannot guarantee that I will find happiness. However, I'm certain that if I carry "Suffering", there is no way I will find happiness. Therefore, happiness can only be found when I carry the state of "No Suffering".

Summary: Keep this "No Suffering" state within you for every second in your life is critical for your well-being.

First post after awhile...

It has been awhile that I would like to write about this topic. However, whenever I started thinking about what to write, I either got too serious about the topic and therefore I was unable to write a single line or I didn't know where to start. Later on, I figure out that life isn't serious at all, it is in fact a very simple thing and the starting point of writing it isn't as important as well as long as I start now otherwise it will never start.

That have been said, I need to start somewhere. So first of all, let me introduce books that inspire me the most in the search of the meaning of life and then later on, I will tell you why I'm so interested in life itself.

The books that inspire me the most so far are: "The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment" and "A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose" by Eckhart Tolle, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Cover, and the Bible. After I read them, I realize that there is a better sequence to read them more effectively because, from my perspective, they link to each other very well. You can try my suggestion here to find it if it helps you to understand more about what they try to say together.

My suggestion is to start with Stephen R. Cover and read about Part 1 (Paradigms and Principles) and Part 2 (Private Victory). These two parts will give the fondation necessary for you to ask many questions about your life. Until you are not satisfy about the answer you get from these two parts, by then you should be ready to read Eckhart Tolle's book. I will suggest to start with "The Power of Now" because it read like Q&A, so many of your questions will be answered from this book. Until all your questions are answered, you can go deeper into it by reading "The New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle. The book introduces the same material as "The Power of Now" but in a different perspective that can lead you to a deeper understanding of life itself. You might find yourself reading "The New Earth" or "The Power of Now" many many times until one day you start to get it then you might be interested in reading Part 3 and Part 4 of "The 7th Habits". The Bible is not essential but it is a very interesting reading after you read the other 3 books. You might get interested more to understand what the Bible has to offer and why it is so timeliness in Human History.

Okay, it is time for me to go now. I will keep writing it a piece at a time ~

PEACE-Everyone